Shoestring Musings: When Going After It All = Getting Nothing
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Stephanie German's article You Can’t Do It All: Live a Purposeful, Prioritized Life struck a cord with me today. I do not have children so I can't relate to that particular ball in Ms. German's juggling act but my arms ache in sympathy nonetheless. We've been saying ease up on the pressure for awhile now, haven't we? Over the last decade there's been much public flouting of second wave feminism's "have it all" mantra and many have been clamoring for a more balanced, less oppressive paradigm but are we just paying lip service to the middle path but not walking it? I think I am. I may acknowledge that doing it all and having it all is unrealistic but that doesn't seem to keep me from unconsciously striving for it, and in the end I fear I'm accomplishing even less than if I didn't try to be so accomplished. My life feels more multi-tasked out of existence than purpose-driven. Too many newly-acquired skills. Too many projects. Too much dabbling. And what's the end result for a Jill of all trades, mistress of none? I suspect for many of us a "have it all" mindset is just fodder for procrastination, because it is more comfortable to scatter one's energies instead of channeling them into one or two directions. It feels safer, but is it? Big payoffs require big risks, and risks require focus. Yesterday, I wrote about my itching for adventure this fall --well the pursuit of adventure takes focus too!