Shoestring Musings: When Going After It All = Getting Nothing
Photo: Ziethen Collection
Stephanie German's article You Can’t Do It All: Live a Purposeful, Prioritized Life struck a cord with me today. I do not have children so I can't relate to that particular ball in Ms. German's juggling act but my arms ache in sympathy nonetheless. We've been saying ease up on the pressure for awhile now, haven't we? Over the last decade there's been much public flouting of second wave feminism's "have it all" mantra and many have been clamoring for a more balanced, less oppressive paradigm but are we just paying lip service to the middle path but not walking it? I think I am. I may acknowledge that doing it all and having it all is unrealistic but that doesn't seem to keep me from unconsciously striving for it, and in the end I fear I'm accomplishing even less than if I didn't try to be so accomplished. My life feels more multi-tasked out of existence than purpose-driven. Too many newly-acquired skills. Too many projects. Too much dabbling. And what's the end result for a Jill of all trades, mistress of none? I suspect for many of us a "have it all" mindset is just fodder for procrastination, because it is more comfortable to scatter one's energies instead of channeling them into one or two directions. It feels safer, but is it? Big payoffs require big risks, and risks require focus. Yesterday, I wrote about my itching for adventure this fall --well the pursuit of adventure takes focus too!
More snow is supposed to be coming my way but March nevertheless came in like a lamb for me --a Lamby Pie to be exact. For this morning I was greeted by a package from my mother, a suprise gift. I knew she was sending me something and thought it a little strange, but I did not expect it to be anything very unusual. I've been rather down lately; I figured it was just a little pick-me-up bijou, like a favorite cosmetic procurred on sale or something. Instead I got the shock of my life! She had found on eBay and bought for me my favorite childhood toy, a little lamb with a blue sweater named Lamby Pie. Update: my mother bought Lamby Pie from bime4you and this seller carries lots of swell vintage toys so please check it out!
Now the tale of Lamby Pie is one of treachery and woe. It begins with treachery, for she was technically my cousin's Easter basket present but as my mother told me I had my eye on Lamby the moment I saw her. So I stole her. Somehow I secreted her away and to …
I have a hell of a time finding a bra that fits. I've been professionally fitted, still more often than not I end up ordering my bras online because I wear an odd size that I rarely see in the stores. Inevitably these bras are on the more expensive side. Still, pickings are slim so I got to pay. And this week I have my ire up because for the second time, after finally finding a bra that I like and that fits well... It has been discontinued!!!!
Today I salute pin-up artist Alberto Vargas, an illustrator who was instrumental in shaping the "vintage pin-up aesthetic". Sexy, sassy and spirited --that's a lot to convey with pencil and paint but he did it. And when it comes to pulling off the breezy sex-kitten-next-door styles of the 1940s & 50s, nothing's better than channeling your inner "Varga Girl"!
I kept it pretty clean here...but Vargas also did illustrations that, um, left less to the imagination, so to speak. But sometimes leaving a little more to the imagination is far more exciting --especially when it comes to fashion. So remember that next time you nab a slinky vintage cocktail dress or hit the beach in a suit that evokes Esther Williams, Betty Grable, Hedy Lamarr or Marilyn Monroe: a peek-a-boo attitude is what's key, not necessarily peek-a-boo clothing!